What’s holding you back?


Top 10 Cognitive Distortions:

Which of these do you do? Check the areas below that you might like to discuss with your coach.

  • All or Nothing Thinking: Seeing things as black-or-white, right-or-wrong wiith nothing inbetween. Essentially, if I’m not perfect then I’m a failure.
    • I didn’t finish writing that paper so it was a complete waste of time.
    • There’s no point in playing if I’m not 100% in shape. Ÿ They didn’t show, they’re completely unreliable!
  • Overgeneralization: Using words like always, never in relation to a single event or experience.
    • I’ll never get that promotion Ÿ She always does that…
  •  Minimising or Magnifying (Also Catastrophizing):Seeing things as dramatically more or less important than they actually are. Often creating a “catastrophe” that follows.
    • Because my boss publicly thanked her she’ll get that promotion, not me (even though I had a great performance review and just won an industry award).
    • I forgot that email! That means my boss won’t trust me again, I won’t get that raise and my wife will leave me.
  • “Shoulds”: Using “should”, “need to”, “must”, “ought to” to motivate oneself, then feeling guilty when you don’t follow through (or anger and resentment when someone else doesn’t follow through).
    • I should have got the painting done this weekend.
    • They ought to have been more considerate of my feelings, they should know that would upset me.
  • Labelling: Attaching a negative label to yourself or others following a single event.
    • I didn’t stand up to my co-worker, I’m such a wimp! ŸWhat an idiot, he couldn’t even see that coming!
  • Jumping to Conclusions:

    1) Mind-Reading: Making negative assumptions about how people see you without evidence or factual support.Your friend is preoccupied and you don’t bother to find out why. You’re thinking:

  • She thinks I’m exaggerating again or Ÿ He still hasn’t forgiven me for telling Fred about his illness.

2) Fortune Telling: Making negative predictions about the future without evidence or factual support

  • won’t be able to sell my house and I’ll be stuck here (even though housing market is good).
  • No-one will understand.I won’t be invited back again (even though they are supportive friends).
  • Discounting the Positive: Not acknowledging the positive. Saying anyone could have done it or insisting that your positive actions, qualities or achievements don’t count…
    • That doesn’t countanyone could have done it.
    • I’ve only cut back from smoking 40 cigarettes a day to 10. It doesn’t count because I’ve not fully given up yet.
  • Blame & Personalization: Blaming yourself when you weren’t entirely responsible or blaming other people and denying your role in the situation
    • If only I was younger, I would have got the job
    • If only hadn’t said that, they wouldn’t have…
    • If only she hadn’t yelled at me, I wouldn’t have been angry and wouldn’t have had that car accident.
  • Emotional Reasoning: I feel, therefore I am. Assuming that a feeling is true – without digging deeper to see if this is accurate.
    • I feel such an idiot (it must be true). Ÿ I feel guilty (I must have done something wrong).
    • I feel really bad for yelling at my partner, I must be really selfish and inconsiderate.
  • Mental Filter: Allowing (dwelling on) one negative detail or fact to spoil our enjoyment, happiness, hope etc
    • You have a great evening and dinner at a restaurant with friends, but your chicken was undercooked and that spoiled the whole evening.

The 9 Leadership Characters

The 9 Leadership Characters

Your leadership characteristics are the sum of your personality, habits, behaviours and attitude.

Here we identify the most important leadership characteristics and how you can develop your leadership character. When we started using the game of golf as our classroom to develop leadership we noticed a similarity between the way people play golf, and their leadership characteristics.

Originally, we created nicknames for our participants as an easy means of communication between us trainers. The nicknames not only stuck, it spurred me to delve in and research. What I found was that there were 9 major leadership styles that corresponded with their golfing character. For example, the golf “Conqueror” – the guy (and it was usually a guy) who smacks the ball as a far as possible and uses the biggest baddest club in the bag… well, he was just like that as a leader.

We identified nine different character types and with a little imagination created the “9 Character’s of Leadership.

Nine Leadership Characters

There are nine main ‘styles’ of leadership – the 9 Characters. By ‘style’, I do not mean to refer to an individual’s personality or their innate character as though this were true. I am, instead, referring to the way in which you perform at your best and most naturally – which may represent your true personality – best to ask your spouse or a close friend who knows you in many other situations as well. This is your character paradigm.

We’ll consider each of the characters or styles in turn, pointing out the dominant leadership characteristics displayed and consider a few well known business leaders who fit each style. Your job is to identify your own style amongst these nine – finding the one which most accurately matches your approach to leadership.

Nine Characters of Leadership
To find out your Leadership Character, take the GAPPS4 Leadership Assessment now.
This isn’t about choosing the style you think that you ‘should’ have, or would like to have. This is about understanding where you are now, and knowing that if you lead in this style, it will be the most comfortable. Later you can consider how to compensate for the weaknesses in your leadership.

Your leadership character is the combination of your technical competency (how well you do the leadership Skills) and your leadership advantage (have developed the Leadership Qualities). Many golfers take up the game, in part, because it is known as the sport of business people – it is an especially good means of networking and developing relationships, so is there a commonality between the way people play the game and the way they behave at work – our research and observation shows that there is:

The Conqueror Leader

The conquerer revels in adversity and challenge.The conquerer leader is technically excellent and seldom backs out of a confrontation if offered.This leader dominates. Power is their weapon of choice. Achieving results others think impossible brings great joy. This leader works to shorten every task – going for broke every time. Often an exhibitionist and like to brag about their prowess.

Challenging projects whet the appetite – bringing pulses of energy and making the endorphins flow.

As a leader, this character revels in adversity and challengeis technically excellent and seldom backs out of a confrontation if offered. The more impossible others consider the position, the more they defy the odds. They want results, and they want them now! Excuses will bring wrath, and success will bring a new challenge. Seldom satisfied with the result, it can always be better.

As a leader, the ‘Conqueror’ revels in adversity and challenge. The more impossible others consider the position, the more the conqueror defies the odds. They want results, and they want them now. Excuses will bring wrath, and success will bring a new challenge. Seldom satisfied with the result, it can always be better.

Famous leaders here include: Margaret Thatcher, Carly Fiorina, Lee Ka Shing, John Chambers, Michael Dell, David Johnson.

Many Controller Leaders aspire to this style. Tending to remain in a particular job or industry, they are often specialists in their field.

These leaders like to crush the competition, whether it’s external or internal… all are fair game.

How does this leader develop?

There’s little further technical skill this individual needs, so long as they remain in their chosen specialist field or industry.

What they often lack in interpersonal skills , they make up for inachievement orientation.

These leaders do, however, change jobs and industries. Their record of achievement, the results they get make them highly prized.

The Controller Leader

Controller Leaders are technically competent, they have the aptitude to do leadership. On the downside, Controller Leaders often care little about another person’s values. With some technical development in the DOING of leadership, you become a more competent leader without the good people skills.

The most noticeable characteristic of this leader is that they shout. If someone does not understand what they need to do, this leader will usually raise their voice, repeating exactly the same words… just more loudly.

Easily frustrated by other people, they rarely care much for what’s important for the other person – their values (even their own!) They show little empathy for poor performers. Yet these leaders often form the backbone of the company.

This leader is actually more manager than ‘leader’. Often process oriented, this person finds the rule book and sometimes throws it. These leaders can be very very effective. The armed forces are filled with Controller Leaders. They can shout louder to get things done. And , when struggling to communicate, the most effective action is to raise the voice. Forceful gesticulations and arm movements enable the coarse leader to vent some frustrations.

The ‘Controller Leader’ is good at what they do, in their area of expertise. They like to control information, power or skills. Often insecure, they can be aggressive and quick to blame their own mistakes on others.

These technically almost competent leaders abound. You’ve met at least one in the past month. The more extreme politicians tend have this characteristic. Trading floors overflow with them. In business, pre-dominantly male, high testosterone, almost brilliant.

Achievement or results oriented, though not so high as conquerors.

Developing Controller Leaders

If you are a this type of leader it is likely that you regularly feel frustrated and, well, you may not have known this before, but believe me, everyone else thinks you are a little “rough around the edges”.

No, I agree it’s not a nice label. But then, can I be honest with you here. The fear you instil in others isn’t too kind either.

You have come a long way. You probably get great results. And you may even be extremely well paid. So what’s wrong with staying here?

Nothing at all, if you enjoy this. Not for you anyway. Others might take issue with me here and suggest that you should be the first in line for re-training. But this is not so. All businesses find that they need a few of these competent yet seemingly uncaring leaders. These are often the people who get things done. Only the conqueror is more highly prized in such situations.

The Compliant Leader

The Compliant Leader is where we all start! Or at least should start!. Primarily this is a follower role, rather than leader. Everyone is a Compliant Leader at first and there is no shame in being here. In fact some leaders stay here their entire lives and still manage to succeed. We all start at the bottom left corner! Low technical leadership aptitude, and low leadership advantage.

The ‘Compliant Leader’ is usually focussed on a niche or specific technical area with little need to lead or manage others. Such focus on ‘doing a job’ is vital in teams. Complaint leaders are often the people who ‘get the job done’

I hear often about “natural born leaders” – usually from the same people who believe that leadership cannot be developed (and when I dig deeper, I find that these same people are not ‘natural born leaders’ and cannot be bothered to put in the effort to actually develop their leadership thus, leadership is ‘natural’ becomes the excuse.)

Let me put my stake in the ground here.

No-one is a born leader!

You are born as a baby. You are not born as the CEO of megacorp inc!

Do some individuals seem to show their leadership character and competencies more easily than others? Sure they do. Just as some people have better hand-eye coordination and find sports easier to excel at. Some are great musicians. Now if you can find one person who is a ‘born leader’ who had never ever developed themselves, practiced and is a truly good leader I will eat 3 golf balls for my lunch.

Now, got that off my chest. We all start as “Compliant” leaders. A few leaders remain so. They possess little of the technical aptitude of doing leadership, and little of the mindset or attributes of being a leader. If you are young, this is perfectly acceptable. If you are new to a formal leadership role, this is acceptable. But, if you are the leader of a country, it is not really acceptable.

Fame as a Compliant leader is not on the cards. Millions of people fall into this leadership character because they get on and do their own job, and simply do not lead others. Every team needs people like this and these individuals form the backbone of every economy.

However, if you are here and want to lead others, you have a choice:

  1. Give up
  2. Learn how to do leadership

And the most common form of leadership development, is learning how to DO it.

So, the Complaint Leader buys a few leadership books… 7 Habits, Dummies Guide to leadership. The favourite during the 90′s of course was to go get an MBA.

Developing the Complaint Leader

Most beginner leaders are this way because they have never been given training in leadership, have no mentors, or are simply young and thus still a beginner at this leadership stuff.

That being said, many schools and even kindergartens are realizing the importance of developing leadership skills and character at a very young age.

Most often, the chosen development route is to first learn how to do leadership. That is, learn the technical skills or competence of leaders. And the primary skill that a leader has is Engaging Communications.

The optimal route however, is to first develop your leadership character and that always starts developing the Habits and Attitudes of Leadership. Start with Dr. Tim Elmore’s “Habitudes”.

Connector Leaders

Connector Leaders are unable to DO leadership and management technically as well as others. Connector leaders are those highly adept in the softer skills of influencing fellow humans and either resort to manipulative methods to maintain their leadership or give of themselves to others continuously. Many clients of mine get concerned about this. To manipulate someone is usually considered a negative characteristic, and for many who feel that they have been manipulated by someone associate the term negatively. So let me clarify by turning to our trusty dictionary.com again…

ma·nip·u·late [muh-nip-yuh-leyt]–verb (used with object), -lat·ed, -lat·ing.

  1. to manage or influence skillfully, esp. in an unfair manner: to manipulate people’s feelings.
  2. to handle, manage, or use, esp. with skill, in some process of treatment or performance: to manipulate a large tractor.
  3. to adapt or change (accounts, figures, etc.) to suit one’s purpose or advantage.

Manipulation is a prized skill. Sure some individuals use their highly developed influencing skills for personal gain over others. And let me be honest here, the vast majority of Connector Leaders that we have met and worked with do, at least when we first meet them, belong to this darker side of the skill use.

The other side of Connector Leaders are those who are ‘Go-Givers’. Such individuals are the kings and queens of the networking circuit. Always looking for a way to refer someone else and connect them with appropriate opportunities. The caveat for some leaders here is that their generosity is not always reciprocated and if the desire to help others is less than completely genuine, they can end up very bitter and resentful.

As a business leader, the ‘Connector’ seeks to expand their circle of influence, some for leverage, others as ‘go-givers’. Underlying motive is key to understanding Connectors. The ‘Connector Leader’ may use the skills of others, claiming recognition for others efforts and yet makes them feel good about it. Other Connectors add value to others, often at the expense of themselves.

Manipulative Connector leaders abound throughout the world. These are often the leaders who ‘play politics’ very well. They know who is key to their future and will easily use their skills to ‘shmooze’ and persuade. If left on their own, they would flounder, yet they seem to do more than survive, even thrive in many organizations. If the Conqueror is the home of the despots then this is the home of nepotism.

Leaders I include here: Several politicians fit this category and a large proportion of people in high level leadership positions that you know. Often the ‘Chairman’s son/nephew or son-in-law.’

Erm… my assessment puts me here and I don’t like it!

Hold on a moment!

Being a fox is not all bad. There are some great and important leadership skills. Skills that others often lack and thus you have the upper hand. Influencing skills in particular are usually strongest.

With this alone, such leaders have a fabulous opportunity. All you really need to consider is your own Values!

The Conjuror Leader

The Conjuror Leader triumphs over adversity again and again. The conjuror seems intent on making their own lives difficult and forever deliberately putting themselves and their teams into new challenges. These leaders find excitement in difficult problems, thoroughly enjoy being tested in the “school of hard knocks”, or an impossible negotiation with the union rep. They excel in the bunkers of the business world, and become easily bored with routine projects. They gather their wits before a troublesome task and have marvellous imagination which they are very capable of transferring directly into their work. About half of the these characters like to show-off, whilst the other, quieter half, like to gain great results.

Conjuror Leaders are the true 360 Leaders. They face daily the tensions of balancing the demands of bosses, staff, clients and suppliers. This is truly leading from the middle of the pack. It’s a tough place to be.

The mantra of the successful Conjuror Leader is to “keep on keeping on”. Lead upwards, across and down. Prioritize sufficiently well and above all, manage self effectively.

Leaders here include: Herb Kelleher, Hank Greenberg, Michael Eisner

Like their namesake, these leaders juggle many things at a time. Kings and Queens of multi-tasking, if they learn how to empower their team and enable them through developing the right skills for them then all that sometimes remains, is to become more long term goal focused and have a more strategic perspective.

Developing the Conjuror Leader

The first and foremost thing for the leader in the middle is a reminder that Leadership is influence, nothing more, nothing less.

The challenges Conjuror Leaders face on a daily basis and most often, the lack of power and authority means that they have to influence upwards, across and down the organization. Raising your level of Influence with others by adding value to them and honing the skills of persuasiveness are the key to success.

The Crafstman leader

The Craftsman leader is the clear headed technical leader. Deeply aware of their own qualities, characteristics and skills. They excel in their area. These leaders, rehearse and practice even during a project – working on particular aspects of their management and leadership that needs attention.

This leader excels when tinkering with the minutia details of how to run a particular project. These leaders prefer a low stress day, first time solutions, and polish for the final quality will suit them just fine. Quiet and concentrate more on achieving great results than prideful trumpeting of achievements, these are solid leaders and maintain a consistent high performance.

The Craftsman leader likes a smooth-running business where they can constantly and continuously improve aspects of their business in incremental steps. They invite you to examine their work, highlighting the intricate detail and fine product.

The ‘Craftsman Leader’ likes a smooth-running business where they can constantly and continuously improve aspects of their business in incremental steps. They approach their area of expertise with panache and very high quality. ‘Craftsman’ can be viewed as frustrating to others (especially Conquerors) when they want perfection rather than ‘good enough’

Gordone Bethune, Andy Grove, Sandy Weill are some examples I believe are here.

Developing craftsmen

Organiazations and CEO’s often shy away from developing the craftsmen in their team. They know that they need the quality and steady high performance they bring. In fact, some are held back from progressing only because there’s just one step to go to being a chess-player leader and may even be perceived as a threat to those above and on the Boardroom.

Most of these leaders are an inspiration to their teams – enjoying and praising high quality work and performance, they encourage those without to develop the technical skills and their “soft skills”.

Often, these leaders act as mentors to others – with great experience and with the balance of the high achievement focus of the conqueror, and the strategic politicking of the chess player.

So what does the Craftsman leader need to develop?

Well, the chances are that if you are here, you already know. But just in case…

It is possible that this leader needs a more strategic perspective. More often it is the skills of influencing and motivating.

Huh?

Yes, it’s true.

Frequently the Craftsman leader has very high Motivation level and Influence Level. That is, they are personally highly motivated and this exudes to those around, who pick up on their motivation. They are inspiring!

They also very frequently have a high level of influence with others. They most often have developed others who then follow because they have been personally developed by this leader… which in turn earns respect and loyalty.

The down side, for some of these leaders, is that because of these high levels of qualities, they do not deliberately practice the skills of motivating and influencing.

When some people simply “don’t get it”, the few that are uninspired or just not interested in learning from this person… they lack the mind ‘politick’ to bother.

This is often a great shame for the organization who would truly benefit if they stepped up that next level.

Those that reach the position… well just look at their organizations. Talk to their people. You’ll want to work there too.

The Cavalier Leader

The Cavalier leader is the ‘show-off’ of the leadership world. The Cavalier leader may not be so egotistically, but because it motivates them. The consummate performer – the true exhibitionist in the office, these leaders like to shape their activities as much as possible and work everything towards the target. How the result, and they, look is important. This is the leader who says “watch this” as they carve a deal in seconds that took others years to fail. Others do this occasionally, with luck, but these leaders thrive on it. They like to wow the crowd and colleagues and are the fame-makers of the business world.

Often referred to as Mavericks, they will stun the audience with acts of derring-do and controversial behaviours. These leaders enjoy the limelight and are more frequently in the press.

Cavalier leaders include: Richard Branson, Ken Lay, Bill Gates, Martha Stewart.

The Cavalier leader is the ‘show-off’ of the leadership world – not necessarily egotistically, but because it motivates them. Often, they will stun the audience with acts of derring-do and controversial behaviours. These leaders enjoy the limelight and are more frequently in the press. They are the Mavericks in business.

Most often, these leaders evolve due to difficulties in learning the technical competences necessary to develop from clumsy to coarse leadership. The prankster at school who entertained rather than produce results.

Charismatic leadership in action? I am regularly asked how to develop “charismatic Leadership”, and frequently this leader is labelled as “Charismatic”. They exude charm, a ‘presence’. But just what is this “charisma”?

Let us turn to the trusty dictionary.com for answers:

cha·ris·ma [kuh-riz-muh]

  1. Theology . a divinely conferred gift or power.
  2. a spiritual power or personal quality that gives an individual influence or authority over large numbers of people.3.the special virtue of an office, function, position, etc., that confers or is thought to confer on the person holding it an unusual ability for leadership, worthiness of veneration, or the like.

What do I do to get this “charisma”? Well, sorry folks, but it isn’t something you do, it is a gift… free, gratis, given. i.e. not in exchange for something else.

So how do I get given it? The clue is in the definition… divinely, spiritual… I suggest that you ask for it.

I don’t believe in all that stuff, so how can I get it?

Conductor Leaders

The conductor is often the unsung hero of the office and social life. Conductors organise, cajole and hustle and, as their namesake, bring harmony into the team through structured, cooperation and collaboration. More concerned for everyone’s enjoyment than just their own, they thrive on working with others. Taking part is more important than winning; they can glory in other’s success. Many of the world’s top leaders fit this style. Disciplined and organised, these leaders like to keep accurate performance records and seldom show-off.

Most leaders would like to be considered as conductors, concentrating their efforts on bringing the symphony together in perfect harmony towards a particular goal. These leaders empower others and seldom take centre-stage in public view (like an orchestral conductor, they have their back to the audience and their guidance focused on their team.)

Leaders: Charles Heimbold, Carol Bartz, Elizabeth Dole, Ralph Larsen, Bill Marriot

Most leaders would like to be considered as conductors, concentrating their efforts on bringing the symphony together in perfect harmony towards a particular goal. These leaders empower others and seldom take centre-stage in public view (like an orchestral conductor, they have their back to the audience and their guidance focused on their team.)

Often, these leaders draw on others competence because they don’t have it themselves! Is that such a bad thing? My mother used to tell me that “it takes a real man to know when to ask for help”.

Actually, one of the best snippets of advice she could ever have given me. Whenever I struggled with doing something, I would feel some pride in asking for the help of those more capable than I.

It helped me to firstly become a good team player and later, a decent leader.

In my early career, I trained as a Chef (yes and I still cook and yes I am pretty good, and yes, you bring the wine and I’ll cook for you). Where was I? Oh yes, the kitchens. Perhaps I should mention that I am not good at pastry. My croissants are solid masses of dough and butter that can (and have) cracked floor tiles!

Does that mean I cannot run a kitchen? No, it means that if I want to serve guests with delectable deserts and breads, that I need to work with someone who’s hands are cooler and has the knack of getting the ingredients properly balanced.

Later I trained in Hotel Management. Some departments suited my skills better than others. Accounting is a no-no for me. I can do it, I just get incredibly bored and thus rush and thus make mistakes. However, give me the chance to chat with someone… I’m your man!

As a leader, I learned how to draw from the strengths of others. Knowing who had the technical competence to do particular tasks and who had the right behavioural competencies to best serve customers.

However, keeping everyone in play effectively and without workaholic effort does mean that, as in an orchestra, we need good, solid section leaders. Otherwise this character can quickly slip back to being a conjuror.

The Chess Player Leader

The Chess Player is the strategist of the leadership world. The Chess Player leader plots their way through a plan from point a to point b to point c. Positional planning is their forte and they are content to deliver steadily and continuously all day, with an occasional massive triumph. They know that consistent, planned performance will win most of the time against all other styles. This highly strategic leader gets the most from their leadership when they are thinking clearly, and using their minds throughout the day.

Nothing flashy about their behaviour for the most part, these leaders are good in all aspects of the business and tend to manage everything efficiently and well.

These are the scorers in the game of business – they may appear to showing-off but that is due to their considerable skill and focus.

All leaders would like to consider themselves to be such leaders, understanding the ‘art of war’ and the plethora of books on strategic management. But that’s just it, the vast majority of strategists are managers, not leaders (except by title).

These leaders understand the environment, the context, the shifting positions of the competition and play a solid game along known successful routes, not too greedy and with contingencies for rough times. They understand foremost, who they are and what drives them, secondly they know their people and leverage their strengths and deploy all their resources to best effect.

This leadership characteristic is most ideally exemplified by Jack Welch, Walter Shipley, Howard Schultz, Tony Blair.

 

Motivation direction

Motivation Direction

Many successful golf players (and business leaders) are motivated by their own dissatisfaction with their performance. It can be a very powerful motivator. You would expect someone who is thus motivated to improve their game to be similarly motivated in other aspects of their life.

Do you see a golf course as a series of obstacles to be avoided, or do you see the fairways and greens as the thing to hit. There are a few people who actually aim for the obstacles because they excel at the tricky shots – most, however, find themselves in the obstacles due to misfortune… or were they actually responsible?


For most people, the self-directed anger resulting from dissatisfaction is not a positive state to be in. If you condemn yourself for playing poorly and use self-talk phrase such as “I should have…”, or yelling (at yourself or outwardly) your self-disgust such as “useless idiot” and perhaps more colourful phrasing – you are doomed to repeat it. Not only will you repeat the ‘error’, you are physically hurting yourself – self-condemnation causes self-directed anger causes stress causes physical distress causes physical sickness and, for many, heart failure. It’s a little as if your heart decides that’s it’s had enough of your inward abuse and is desperately trying to communicate your need to stop doing it. If you’ve had a heart attack or stroke you’ve probably completely reassessed how you live your life – and sought more tranquility, less stressful behaviours – in some cases avoiding the major contributors to your previously high stress levels – work and/or golf.

Some people don’t realise that this is what they are like. The way you drive your car is often a good indicator of your style. How angry do you get when someone cuts in to the queue in front of you? When you pull up to the red traffic light, do you swerve over to the other lane to be at the front of the queue? When motoring along are you more concerned about getting somewhere quickly, or more concerned with the traffic around you?

Back to golf. When you stand at the tee, what do you focus your attention on? Your target? Avoiding the trees/bunkers/water/rough? I hope the former by now if you’ve been with me all this time. What you focus on is what you’ll get.

Motivation is a multi-faceted phenomenon. In large part, motivation is about the satisfaction of values held. It is the result of using particular personal resources towards a specific goal that satisfies a value or value held by that individual. Connecting any of these three in any order, resources, values and outcome creates the feeling of motivation. In smaller part, though often the critical component, is encouragement to achieve a goal.

It is worth spending some time here on what we mean by encouragement. The word has ‘courage’ at it’s root. Thus, to encourage is to develop, enhance or build courage. Courage, you’ll remember, is not the absence of fear but the continuation to do something of which you are fearful. It follows therefore, that if we ‘encourage’ ourselves – we are building the strength to overcome our fears and commit to an action. Encouragement itself, is often mistaken for motivation – or exchanged for it. In order to get someone to accomplish something – they will need to be motivated and/or encouraged to do so. it is possible to get someone – or even yourself – to do something which does not satisfy a value – but such actions are not repeated if no personal value is realised.

For example, many beginner golfers give up playing after being encouraged (usually by a relative or close friend) to take up the game. They continue to ‘try’ to play until they find that they do not realise something of value for themselves. Yes, there are people who don’t like or enjoy golf. Shocking but true. Encouragement is good, but it is not a substitute for genuine motivation.

There are some fundamental needs that we as human beings find motivational. There’s plenty of books and papers on the subject for the interested individual and I don’t intend to argue every combination here. However, there are some generally accepted ‘big’ motivators that the academics agree on – even if they want to put different labels to each term and put them in a different order.

Values LeaderShift 3 – Believe in someone else today!

This is a story of two leaders. We worked with the organisation on team leadership because one of their sales teams was "highly successful" and another was "doing poorly, with a very low morale". The organisation wanted us to "find out what’s working in [the high-performing team],fix the [low-performing team] and run a training program for all the other sales teams to be as good as [the high-performing team]."

· Ann, the leader of the high-performing team had joined the company 5 years previously as a sales representative. She was good at her job and always exceeded her targets. She was promoted to team leader after 3 years and had infused her own enthusiasm, determination and will to her team. Her team members were happy, hard-working and also successful, most exceeding targets.

· Joe, the leader of the low-performing team had similarly joined the company 5 years previously, though as sales team leader. Joe’s team were, by contrast, unhappy and unsuccessful in achieving targets. This had been the case for all 5 years. The team members had changed frequently over this time, only one member remained from the original team that Joe took over.

Ann was enthusiastic when we spoke with her about her success. Saying "It’s great to have such a wonderful team.I enjoy working with them and we’re doing well." She went on, "My boss is great, really believes in me and lets me run things the way I want. I like that, and I try to treat everyone in the team the same way. When they are down about something, maybe their kid is in trouble or sick, I let them take time out if they need to, so long as the work gets done sometime, it doesn’t have to be 9 to 5. I trust them to make up the time, and they do, and more!"

Joe was belligerent when we spoke, "I have tried everything possible to make these people work harder and make target. They’re always moaning that their kid’s sick or they have to visit the doctor. Always skiving off, taking toilet breaks, going for coffee. If I turn my back for one instant, they’re gone." When prompted, Joe continues, "My boss is pretty useless. Only ever comes round at the end of the month to [tell me off] for not making target. To be honest, I’m fed up, I don’t ‘think I’ll ever get this team to perform and the stress is making me sick."

There are of course, several things here we could expand on, but what was clearly apparent was that Ann’s boss believed in her and she in turn believed in her team and their abilities, that she could trust them and that they would deliver. Joe’s boss, didn’t appear to be that concerned for Joe and didn’t help. Joe in turn, trusted staff to ‘skive’ and believed that she would never get the team to perform.

When someone else, particularly someone in authority over you (a leader, parent, boss, teacher) believes in you and your abilities it helps you to believe in yourself and your team. What you believe on the inside, becomes manifest on the outside. This is usually the attitude that you portray and the way you communicate.

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Leadershift!

Tell someone that you believe in them!

If, by some chance you are wishing that your parents, teachers, boss etc showed their belief in you… or even vaguely tempted to go "if only…" Go forth right now, find someone that you care about and say the following:

"I believe in you. You can achieve anything you want to achieve."

Values LeaderShift 1 – What’s your story?

Great leaders are individuals who have successfully developed (or taken over) a story that appeals to the values of their followers.

A leader needs to know and understand his or her own values and the values of their followers.

You do not necessarily need to know the detail of their values, but some real knowledge will greatly help you weave the story that will work best.

Abraham Lincoln is credited with saying "You can please some of the people all of the time, or all of the people some of the time, but you can’t please all of the people all of the time."
And that is probably the issue that many leaders face. Each individual in your team, your organization, your community, even your family – has their own set of personally held values and their own hierarchy of those values.

Let’s consider a fairly typical situation, one that I have heard in slight variations many, many times from leaders I have worked with:

"In my team I have 8 direct reports, one person is a real star performer – always hard working, always achieves the goals and targets. One person  is always calling in sick, looks miserable all  day, just about makes the target, one is a real  low performer and  complains about too much work. The rest, are OK. I’ve tried everything but what can I do about these two low performers?"

This informs us several values of the leader.

  • That performance or is important for them.
  • That to be seen to do hard-work is important.
  • That they are not keen on people who look miserable and complain.
  • That they value doing something about the situation and are willing to learn.

Whilst you would benefit from more information to be more certain, the leader’s values might map thus:

Leader’s words

Core Values

Performance

Achievement

Hard-work

Achievement

Not complaining/miserable

Hedonism

Desire to help others 

Benevolence

Willing to learn personally

Self-direction

For the two "low-performers" – whatever their personal values, it is likely that their own hierarchy of values does not include ‘Achievement’ at such a high level. It may be that ‘Self- direction’ is low also.

In such situations, the responses I have heard in one-to-one coaching sessions form ‘low-performing’ staff is myriad but most show a core theme when asked about their performance at work.

  • Most frequently: "I don’t see/understand why this is so important." And that’s right; they do not see it or understand it. The leader may not be communicating the value of performance to them.
  • Often: "I try to do the job but I don’t ‘have the right support/tools/resources." This may or may not be accurate and it is the leader’s role (as manager) to ensure that the right resources are available and how to get them and use them. 
  • Too often: "There’s nothing wrong with my performance, it’s the market/ environment/ economy/ etc.”  Shifting blame to something outside of one’s personal control is possibly a favourite ‘excuse’ and in my experience and with further probing, this usually relates to either a security value (if I blame someone else, I’ll remain secure), or a hedonistic value (I don’t gain enjoyment from this, or I dislike doing this, and I feel better if I blame someone else for my failure to achieve).

At this point I want to stress that understanding your own values and those of others is NOT about judging the merits of those values. One individual’s values are not better than another person’s values – they may be more aligned with your own and thus you would consider them to be ‘better’, but they have worked well so far for that individual. Once we begin to know and understand another person’s value we can weave our story to appeal to them.

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Leadershift!

Make your "story" compelling

  1. First. What is truly important for you? (work, career and life)
    • Write this down.
  2. Second. What is important for your people, customers, suppliers, shareholders?
    • Ask them! And write it down.
  3. Third line up the lists. Look for the matches and the mismatches.
  4. Now write your "story" that is compelling to your audience. Communicate your "story" again and again and again and again and again… and yes you are saying the same thing over and over and over again. Live it, love it, tell it.