All through life, Alex has always felt that other people, schoolmates, friends and later colleagues, seemed to have it easier. Dad was never quite satisfied. It was hard to live up to his standards. Aunts and Uncles always knew a cousin who was better, brighter, richer, faster.
Alex, like you and me, would like to earn more, be recognized and respected. To enjoy life and have fun. To simply succeed.
Bridging the Gaps to Unity of Cohesion and Effort Between Tech Leadership and the Business
Dr John Kenworthy and Barbara Dossetter
The common ground is the frustrations with scope creep, budget specifications, programme management and poor leadership.
Unfortunately, this hasn’t changed in 40 years, and won’t change until both parties ante up to the bar properly. As the need for projects has exponentially increased, it’s seriously outrun our ability to field talented people to make this happen.
What helps distinguish leaders and managers is about control and, quite literally, how “hands-on” you are.
If you have ever learned to play the game of golf, the chances are that you grip the club tightly.
After all
this is basically holding onto a stick that you will swing through the air and hit a ball. Allowing the club to “follow-through’ – if you don’t hold on tight, the club might just go as far as the ball.
I appreciate that you may have never played golf, but you can liken this also
A few weeks ago I recorded a podcast about the Power of Trust to Succeed and many people wrote and asked why it is that you can do something with the very best intentions but find that it backfires.
It seems that it is very easy to lose someone’s trust but oh so difficult to gain it back.
Think of trust as a wallet full of cash.
I know that it’s rare to have such a thing, but imagine, OK?
Say I have a couple of thousand bucks in various bills in my trust wallet. Every time I do or say something that causes you to lose faith in me, to lose your trust, for whatever reason, is like asking you to take whatever amount of cash out of my wallet.
Of course, being a normal human being, you’ll take the 100 dollar bills first.
If, foolishly I hurt you in some way again, you’ll take another chunk from my wallet. A third time and you’ll probably take the wallet and empty it.
Now I have no trust with you. Is there any way I can influence you if you don’t trust me? Of course not.
My mum would often tell me “all will be well in the morning.” For her, it was just experience and age-old wisdom.
All will be well in the morning
And things always were better in the morning.
Somehow, all the clutter and stress and worry, while, not gone altogether, was, at least more manageable.
As I slept, my brain was free to sort through the problem, process it entirely and put it in a suitable place close to a similar experience in memory. I had learned how to resolve whatever the issue was.
More often than not, it didn’t even need addressing anyway.
All through life, Alex has always felt that other people, schoolmates, friends and later colleagues, seemed to have it easier. Dad was never quite satisfied. It was hard to live up to his standards. Aunts and Uncles always knew a cousin who was better, brighter, richer, faster.
