6 Top Reasons Leaders Seek Coaching

Why do leaders seek coaching? Over the past twenty years of coaching, I have found that leaders seek to a coach for six main reasons, and more urgently when two or more of these reasons combine:

So just what can a coach do for you?

A coach can help you:
  • Gain insight – particularly about how current behaviour is PERCEIVED by others through providing feedback and assessment.
  • Get Clarity of Purpose – Extroverted people who are outer directed (and rewarded behaviours in this world) tend to get their self-esteem from satisfying others’ expectations of them. This may cause them to lose touch with what is truly important for themselves. Without clarity of purpose, you may tend to rush through days not knowing what you want to achieve. Often asking what others want rather than seeming to have opinions of their own. Reflection and review through coaching can help here.
  • Help you improve relationships – changing behaviours in relationships changes their perception of the other party and you’ll get more open and honest feedback. Coaching that helps you conduct planned conversations with colleagues is especially useful here.
  • Broaden your perspectives – we all play a role and have a preference of the way we process…. increasing the diversity of opinions we consider in decisions broadens our perspective leading to improved and more acceptable decisions.
  • Develop your leadership skills – developing the skills each individual needs for their new position or a future role.
  • Help you Identify and overcome barriers to change – change occurs over time, unlearning is often resisted, especially deeply rooted habits, and stress causes us to revert to preference. Self-righteousness is often the biggest barrier. Coaching can identify and discuss the roadblocks developing strategies and new ways of thinking to overcome them.
  • Improve your ability to learn – dependence on your coach for feedback is a disservice. Internalizing the ability to learn and continuously grow, sustaining behaviour and results. Coaching uses a cyclical process, making this process explicit, the coachee becomes more skilled at using the same process on their own.

When is Coaching needed?

There are times in life and work when we would benefit from the experience, wisdom and knowledge of people who have been in similar situations. If you are looking for one such person, then you are looking for a coach. Most coaches are professionals, people with considerable experience in one or more sectors, more often than not trained in coaching skills. They choose to become coaches as they are willing to help others by sharing their experience and by helping their coachees to find solutions to their issues, following them through a plan of action.

According to a report published by CIPD (Chartered Institute of Personnel Development), one in five chief executives claim that having had a coach was critical for their success.

Young graduates report to have found their feet in the organisation thanks to the help of their most experienced colleagues. Even people coming up to retirement have been eased through this difficult stage of their life through people who have “been there before”. Within a work environment there are many situations where the help of a coach would be appropriate.
Typical Situations when having a coach will really help you
  • Starting in a new job/position when you are expected to hit the ground running.
  • Taking on a new role or responsibility, or starting in a new industry where you have little experience, but need to gain the skills and experience quickly.
  • When needing a personal assessment to determine your strengths and weaknesses, and consider what you should be doing in order to maximize your potential.
  • When striving for promotion or a new position.
  • When needing to talk through your thought processes, strategies, and plans in order to move forward.
  • When struggling with certain skills and performance areas and you wish to improve.
  • When feeling you have reached a plateau in your career and want to explore options.

 

How to Give Your Boss Bad News

My first job was in the office of an insurance company at the ripe old age of 14. It was the Easter break and I spent two weeks filing and finding files for people. One day, one of the agents sent me to find a file for a particular client, and I couldn’t find it.

I reported this back to the agent, who needed it desperately to present to his boss. He glanced over to the bosses office and saw him berating a fellow staff member. The door opened and out cam a tearful secretary. The agent then told me that I had to tell the boss that I couldn’t find the file, because the boss was in a bad mood, and it was my fault anyway… Not knowing any better, I did so. Got an earful and left the boss’s office with a ‘flea in my ear’. It turns out that I did the exact opposite of the DARN approach. But I was 14 at the time. I meet clients almost daily who need to deliver bad news… so go ahead and darn it:

 Or, perhaps you trusted your team and now you have empowerment run amok.   You don’t want to blame… but you’re mad too.  And worse, she might have to tell her boss.  How do you tell your boss the bad news?

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How to be in rapport with others

The wonderful Ready to Manage folk have another great article for you. Building rapport with others. What to do, and how to do it:

Building rapport is the process of establishing a harmonious relationship with someone so that the relationship feels as close as possible to being a friend. Good rapport can therefore be helpful in a range of life circumstances including work, home or play situations. But once learned, this is a powerful skill that must be used with care and integrity as it can be misused to manipulate someone. We must take care to use it only where our intention is to help them get something they will thank us for later.

In simple summary terms, rapport is best built progressively using the following broad behaviors:

  1. Think of other people as being worthwhile and value their diversity.
  2. Notice body language, breathing, personality style, tone, language etc.
  3. Treat the other person with respect and integrity.
  4. Practice Active Listening at all times.
  5. Ask questions gently and sensitively to show that you care about the other person.
  6. Avoid matching negative emotions – you will both feel bad.

How does my brain work?

How does the brain work? How does my mind inspire creativity, feeling hunger, experience of beauty, the sense of self? Indeed, how do I know that I know? 8 fabulous Ted talks where researchers at the edge of science explain …

 

Creative problem identification

Creativity Graph

Creativity Graph (Photo credit: lightsoutfilms)

“Bring me solutions, not problems” a boss in my early career constantly refrained. And sure, anyone can spot problems, or can we? Paul Danner gives us an idea of getting to new problems…

On a certain level the argument that “anyone can point out problems, but only people who think well and creative can present possible solutions” is certainly valid. However, a case can be made that the discovering of problems is itself a creative endeavor. To meet the challenges of the 21st century, we need artistic imagination to co-create the planet’s best approaches and most influential solutions (Adler, 2010) to a wide variety of complex and ill-defined problems. If change across the global landscape continue to be complex, unprecedented in its pace, and even chaotic the only types of problems will be those categorized as ill-defined. Thus problem identification; an organization wide and systematic pursuit of scanning and interpreting the internal and external environment will be critical for organizational survival. What is needed is creative problem identification.

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